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Social interaction
For so long now, I've been trying to figure out exactly how I function alongside others, and tried to gather some coherent thoughts on the subject. I may or may not have succeeded at the latter; I've definitely got a ways to go on the former.
I'm horrible at making conversation. When I'm with just one or two people, I can't think of new directions to keep the conversation goin, and my mind wanders, and I find myself thinking about other stupid stuff. The other stuff I end up thinking about, I always decide either isn't workth talking about, or has been said before, or is not the other person's business. Similarly, when I'm in a larger situation, I tend to disappear, becoming a detached and not very interested observer. Occasionally I'll latch onto one or two people I know, but even then I just follow them and watch their conversation, playing little part.
I don't make friends well. If I'm part of a social group, I'll be friendly toward everybody, but it'll be pretty rare that I'll actually get to know someone beyond the acquaintances stage. Once I do, I tend to place large amounts of trust in the friends I have made, and treasure them, almost to the point of clinginess.
I think I was lucky to be put into one of the more cohesive dorms, where I could meet people just by going to the lounge and being around. Even though I've moved out, I'm glad I have that place to go. (By the way, if it ever seems like I'm spending an inordinate amount of time around for a non-resident, let me know.) I don't know how well I'll do once I leave here, though, and have to meet people on my own.
Grader meeting!
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I'm horrible at making conversation. When I'm with just one or two people, I can't think of new directions to keep the conversation goin, and my mind wanders, and I find myself thinking about other stupid stuff. The other stuff I end up thinking about, I always decide either isn't workth talking about, or has been said before, or is not the other person's business. Similarly, when I'm in a larger situation, I tend to disappear, becoming a detached and not very interested observer. Occasionally I'll latch onto one or two people I know, but even then I just follow them and watch their conversation, playing little part.
I don't make friends well. If I'm part of a social group, I'll be friendly toward everybody, but it'll be pretty rare that I'll actually get to know someone beyond the acquaintances stage. Once I do, I tend to place large amounts of trust in the friends I have made, and treasure them, almost to the point of clinginess.
I think I was lucky to be put into one of the more cohesive dorms, where I could meet people just by going to the lounge and being around. Even though I've moved out, I'm glad I have that place to go. (By the way, if it ever seems like I'm spending an inordinate amount of time around for a non-resident, let me know.) I don't know how well I'll do once I leave here, though, and have to meet people on my own.
Grader meeting!
click
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With all due respect, I don't think you're the problem.
*smile, hugs*
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As for spending too much time around the dorm? Come on! Weren't you around when Lucas and Shamik were still at Mudd. You would have hardly guessed they had an apartment off campus (or a living space anywhere else for that matter) from the amount of time they spent in the dorm lounge and courtyard. And I don't recall anyone ever complaining about it either.